This week on Nitty Gritty Romance, we’re talking about what to do when you’ve had a bad day — and it seems there are nearly as many different coping strategies as there are people.
But one thing is universal, we all have them. So what can you do to feel better?
If I’m blue or feeling stuck, there’s no doubt I head to yoga class. Yoga can clear your mind and heal your body.
But there are other times…times when you just need to wallow in it.
At the end of a long, not-my-best, flat-out lousy day, I turn to comfort. I chow down on scrambled eggs and drink tea with creamer and LOTS of honey… heck, I buy organic, raw honey at Costco, three bottles at a time just for this reason!
Then I take my Vitamin C packet filled with B vitamins, turn off my computer and turn away from work, pile in bed in comfy pajamas—hopefully with my husband—and watch something to take my mind off it all. (Lovvvveeee Jessica Jones on Netflix!)
Then I go to sleep as soon as possible, and the next morning, I’m better. No, I haven’t fixed anything, but I’ve recharged. And sometimes in our over-stressed, over-scheduled lives that’s what we really need–a moment to reset and recharge.
So, how about you? What do you do to feel better? Curl up with a hot romance? Rock climb? Ice cream? Let us know! Maybe your coping skills can help all of us have a little bit brighter day…
Today on Nitty Gritty Romance, we’re talking about yoga pants to lllloooovvvveeee…
Okay, yes, I spend a lot of time on a yoga mat. A lot. Yoga is as good for your mind as it is your body…but that’s a blog post for another time. What you want to know about are these really great yoga pants.
What they are: High Rise Cut Out Chaturanga™ Tights by Athleta.
(Gorgeous picture, right?)
What’s great about them: They work. I ordered these online and immediately fell in love with the feel — like the smoothest satin or softest cotton.
Can they hold up to rigorous exercise? I took them for a test run a couple of times — first to a regular Vinyasa flow — and I’m happy to say they stayed put. No tugging up at the waist every time I hit Tadasana (they’re high rise). No bunching at the ankles. No adjusting the hips.
Can they survive sweat? Yes. They felt lighter the more I perspired.
Second try: The next time I tested them at an arm balance workshop, and I’m happy to report, my arms didn’t slide off my sweaty legs.
One point: I do have to note that on my tights, the cut-outs are located down the side of the leg and not the back. But I’m hoping the only difference there is aesthetic.
So, are they worth the $89.00 price tag? Yes — especially if you’re like me and want to make these your, “going on a date with the hubby” pants, too. 😉
So try them out, and let me know what you think! Hope this helps you pick a really comfortable pair of yoga pants. Namaste!
This week on Nitty Gritty Romance, we’re talking about something no one loves—Burnout. Burnout stinks. Plain and simple. We’ve all been there, to that point where we feel nearly incapable of doing one more moment of ______ (fill in the blank).
Today, we’re talking about the burnout we all feel once in awhile, when we’ve pushed ourselves too far, sometimes in what feels like the wrong way.
So, here’s why you don’t have to let burnout rule your world.
Burnout is a sign not a condition. If you change your attitude toward burnout, you can change the outcome.
Changing your attitude can be easier than you think. Burnout is my mind and body telling me I need to make a change.
Make the change. Can’t possibly face another_______…? Then don’t. This is not a get out of jail free card. Fulfill your obligations, and move on to something else. Anything else.
Take up a new hobby. Sounds counterproductive? I am so tired/stressed/overworked/overwhelmed I can’t possibly add something new? Do it anyway. See where you can take from the burnout inducing behaviors (too many hours on social media for example), and add that time to something positive—learning to ski, surf, knit, yodel…whatever. Burnout is your cue to reinvent you.
Try yoga. Yes, I go on and on about yoga, but I’m telling you, when you come to the mat, you are giving yourself permission to, “just be.” And in those moments of “just being” you can open your eyes to possibilities you never knew existed.
Make the change. This is your life. If you’re burnt out, dare to make the changes, even the big ones.
When all is said and done, consider: burnout can be a good thing. It is your body and mind telling you, you need to make a shift, whether radical or small.
So many of my mom friends tell me they are completely burnt out after a long summer with the kids. So many writers label their burnout, “Writer’s Block,” when really they are simply burned out on a genre, a brand, a schedule. They begin to lose the excitement, the joy, the reason for doing it. And that’s when the trouble sets in.
So I hope you can look at your burnout as a (gulp) good sign—a signal you need to make a change for the better. I’m rooting for you!
This week on Nitty Gritty Romance, we’re talking about something to love—yoga.
Okay, before you tune out and say, “It’s not for me,” I’m begging you: give it a try. Yoga can change your life for the better.
Yoga is an ultimate body workout that calms your mind and your raging thoughts. It clears away the excess baggage you’re carrying, because it’s about the breath. So even if you’re a novice, all you need to focus on is your breathing, and you’re sure to get the benefits of class. Plus, yoga studios are non-judgmental environments—so no one is judging or criticizing. Really.
I’m not a yoga instructor, so for more info and particulars on poses, check out yoga blogs like Yoga Journal etc. (I included a link below!)
Saying that, I’ll tell you there are certain poses I believe can help all writers – and non-writers, too!
This week we’ll talk about my favorite:
Pigeon Pose. Yup. It can be tough, but nothing opens your hips and for me, my lower back, like Pigeon Pose. As you hold the pose and breathe, something—wonderful—opens in your lower back. I experience a bundle of energy that feels like a vibrating power. Cool, right?
Now my yogi friends tell me this is my Sacral Chakra which is responsible for creativity and sexuality, among other things.
Creativity and sexuality—this has to be the chakra for romance writers. 😉
There are variations of Pigeon Pose. I like to forward fold in my One-Legged Pigeon Pose.
So, my writer and non-writer friends, please, please try a yoga class! Try it out—and then come on back and let me know what you think. At the very least you’ll have a new experience to write about—and probably a very open body and mind to focus on your work.
Already a yogi or a yogini? Great! Let us know! Share your favorite poses or stories.