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Be Brave…



In my constant quest to minimize all the “stuff” we have hanging around the house, I walked into my home office with my cityscape coffee mug and reusable water bottle in hand. As I plopped down at my writing desk, I looked at my office wall which has my book covers and degrees hanging on it—nice—but also had little affirmations and statements that were supposed to help me on my life journey, but instead, had become little more than clutter.

When I began thinking about the affirmation that resonated most with me, only one came to mind: Be Brave.

Most other affirmations circle back to the idea of bravery—being brave in mind and body as the key to success. All other notes came off my wall, but “Be Brave,” remains.



To publish a book, succeed in a pitch at work, go on an interview for a new job—all of it takes guts. It’s easier to sit home and watch the world pass by. It takes going to that place, the one that gives you chills and sweaty palms, to really succeed. And when you get to that place of success and others decide they want to criticize and judge (think bad reviews or a “no” from your boss), it’s easy to wish you had never started the journey.



But the truth is, it is your journey. And you need to take it. Bravely.


For so long I would get annoyed when people would say, “Push yourself out of your comfort zone.” I still do. I don’t agree with that statement at all. It’s NOT about doing something you don’t want to do, it’s about having the guts to go forward to embrace the life you DO want. Experiences are great. Embrace them. But if you go bungee jumping just because your daredevil friend pushes you, you’re not honoring yourself. You’re being bullied.

But if you want to publish that book, hit “submit.” If you want that raise, ask for a meeting with your boss. If you want to be a singer, start auditioning.

Remember, you’re on the path exactly where you are supposed to be—now be brave and embrace all that life has waiting for you.



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Happy Reading!


Happy New Year

I love New Year…

It may even be my favorite holiday. Why?

It’s a time of possibility.

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I love the excitement of Christmas with my young daughters, I love their birthdays, and even searching for Easter eggs hidden in flower patches that are just beginning to bloom, but New Year has a magic all its own.

New Year belongs to each of us and the potential for the New Year is limitless.

New Year is a more introspective holiday—a time for you to make some decisions for you. Many of us make those decisions as resolutions, i.e.:  “Things I’m going to do better.” The yoga teacher in me always cringes when I hear people judge themselves so harshly; as I said in my blog this time last year, I really believe most of us are doing our best most of the time.

So we set goals. Good, goals can be more positive and specific than resolutions. To me, the best goals are journey-focused, rather than result orientated. Rather than the general resolution of “I’m going to get in shape this year,” goals can set you on a path, “I’m going to try a yoga class.” Even better: “I’m going to open my heart and my mind this year and see what happens…”

Okay, okay, it’s rather yogi of me. But it’s way more positive, right?

But what happens when you’re just…well…unsure what your goals should be?

I have that problem this year. Yes, I can definitely open my heart and mind more, and it’s not that everything is perfect in my life—LOL!—it’s not that I don’t need a heck of a lot of work in a lot of areas, and it’s certainly not that I don’t need self-improvement—forgive the double negatives and insert non-self-judgment here!

What I am is in a place of discovery, and I think you may be, too.

So, for this year, in addition to blogging about romance and things to love here on Nitty Gritty Romance, I’ll be taking a journey as a writer and as a person. For my writer friends, I’ll be trying new approaches and marketing tactics and reporting back on what works and what doesn’t—and why.

2018 is a year of possibility so let’s not confine it to a few things on a list. 2018 is a year of potentiality and discovery and let’s take this journey together! I sincerely hope you’ll join me!

Welcome 2018!


Challenge Accepted!

This week on Nitty Gritty Romance, I decided to accept the blog challenge for romance writers – sure I was supposed to begin in January, and okay, I’m a little late, but why not celebrate New Year in June…?!

I like thinking of each day as a new beginning and a new opportunity (that’s the yoga teacher in me!), so why not New Year in June?

So here goes. My fellow romance writers gave me my first theme:

A Few of My Favorite Things


Well this one’s easy. First off, my hubby and my two young girls.

From there: My favorite things include yoga (it really, really makes you feel better! Promise!); Luna Bars ( I would be lost without them!); reading; writing; and the works of Hemingway and Bukowski.


My go-to Luna Bar in my favorite flavor, Caramel Walnut Brownie!






I also adore the band Train – actually Malcolm Angel, the rock star at the heart of Summer of Irreverence-The Rock Star, the first book in the New York Artists Series, was inspired by Pat Monahan’s voice. And I love going to outdoor concerts on summer evenings with my husband and my girls – we bring a blanket and a picnic dinner, and it’s just perfect.




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I also love autumn, snuggling in sweaters and walking through the falling leaves…






Oh! And since this is a romance post, did I mention I love short facial hair on men…? Almost all of my male leads have a short beard at one point or another.

You can check out my Pinterest boards to find the men who’ve been the inspiration for my stories! Including this Sneak Peek for my latest novel (scroll down to meet Trevor Hughes) : Pinterest Sneak Peek

How about you? What do you love? Favorite season? Favorite foods? Facial hair or not?

We love to hear from you!

-Happy Reading!



The Perfect Tank Top

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Today on Nitty Gritty Romance, I’m talking about something to LOVE –the perfect, inexpensive, tank top.

Any woman who loves Gritty Romance as much as I do, needs a whole host of tank tops in her wardrobe.black tank-top

Whether you’re walking the busy streets of SoHo in your favorite worn jeans and tank top, or dressing for a night out (add accessories and layer), or, if you’re like me and you live in a yoga studio—these are the tank tops for you!

They move with your body, don’t ride up, and take abuse…as in hot yoga and continual washes. The tank tops are long, so you can layer crop tops over them (I often layer two different colors of tank tops), and they can hide your too-low jeans. They’re cotton and spandex—and I have paid way more for tank tops not nearly as good.


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Even if you don’t live in NYC, trust me, you need these in your wardrobe.

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And think about it…how sexy is the love scene where the hero sees the heroine’s shape under her tank top? Makes you think of hot summer nights, snuggling together in busy coffee shops, and sitting shoulder to shoulder in the back seat of a cab…





So, where do you find these ultimate, all purpose, gotta have these for summer, tank tops?

Target! target

I have been buying them at Target for years.  They’re cheap and really, really good. I’m wearing one right now, as I’m blogging.

They come in lots of different colors and prints—but you’ve got to own a few in black.

 And guess what? Right now, they’re on sale, 3 for $24. Normally, $9. So, for less than ten bucks, you can add something to your wardrobe that you’ll use all summer long… I’m adding the link—but trust me, these look way better in person—and on—then they do online.

Click Here for Target Mossimo Tank Tops!


And if you love NYC and Gritty Romance as much as I do… why not head over to Amazon and check out my new book, best-selling, Summer of Irreverence–The Rock Star…?! Available for pre-sale now!

Click Here to Pre-Order Summer of Irreverence–The Rock Star!



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